Work life balance…..

Last night when I was meant to be sleeping I lay there thinking about life and wondered the purpose and how it is even possible to have a work, life and balance. My day starts on week days by leaving the house before 7am, I travel an hour and half to work on the train, I work until 5pm, travel another one and half hours home again, only takes that long if I am lucky, get home and collapse in a heap on the couch. I make tea, do all the things you need to get done in the house, have tea, watch a bit of tv if I am not already a sleep, then go to bed. Wake up and start the whole process again. Then on weekends after a sleep in we spend the whole weekend running around doing all the things to maintain the household that we can’t get done during the week, and if we are lucky have some enjoyment. Is this a life? Where is the balance? There should be more time for family, for enjoyment, and relaxation but we work to live and live to work, with a little bit of down time usually Sunday afternoon and even then we are too tired to do much at all.

We talk about work life balance, employers promote it and we are encouraged by our GPs to do it but in this day and age is it really possible? I was contemplating this last night after an exhausting day at work, running around at home to tidy the house, make tea, and then collapsing in bed mind racing and just wanting a good nights sleep so I can start it all again tomorrow.

It is any wonder that one in two marriages end in divorce, families are getting more and more disconnected from each other and stress is at an all time high.

After struggling for many years to live with depression, in particular the last two years when I have been in and out of hospital, faced ECT, amnesia, being very sick and nearly losing my life I now reflect that after all this is the lifestyle that I have fallen into really worth it. If its not, which I don’t think it is, what is the alternative? As much as we would like to think that there are alternatives and we can reach work life balance I am not sure that the demands upon us can be minimised so that we can have balance in life. It is easy to say to have work life balance not so easy, maybe not possible, to achieve.

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One thought on “Work life balance…..

  1. I’ve always struggled with this stupid paradigm we seem to have constructed for ourselves: Why does everyone (or the vast majority) have to go in to work between the hours of 9-5 Monday to Friday??

    If you think long enough about it, it really is stupid. It creates massive congestion in cities since everyone is trying to get in at the same time. It puts unrealistic expectations on people to get everything done within a very specific time frame. It means you simply CANNOT do the things in your life that are not work related but happen to be essential, such as attending a doctor or dentist appointment, or getting your boiler repaired. You can’t do these things without having to use your valuable holiday days because most of the time they only operate during the same hours that you _have to be at goddamn work_.

    We’ve done this to ourselves and we need to change it. Why is the current status quo ‘Work until you are too old to work anymore and then die.’

    Bah.

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