Connections and love – are they predictors of happiness?

“Feeling connected and loved are among the biggest predictors of happiness.” – Cassie Mogilner

In this new world when social media, text messaging, and online gaming has taken over our social sphere I wonder about the concept of ‘connection’ as a predictor of happiness. With this new phenomena are we no longer connected as we once were? Does our reliance on technology to stay connected taken over from our ability to truly socialise with people we know and connect with on a personal level? Have our busy schedules lead us to an indirect form of connectedness? Is this one of the contributing factors that have influenced the surge in rates of depression?

To be connected is to feel love, well sometimes, but connection leads to feelings of belonging, friendship, and without loneliness. Do our feelings from connectedness drawn from the cyber world leave us with these same feelings? Are we less loved than in the past? Are our new forms of ‘connection’ leaving us less loved and therefore at higher risk of depression?

If feelings of connection and love are predictors of happiness is it that happiness is no longer the same as it was before the cyber world became a prominent aspect of our daily lives? If we rely on connection through the cyber networks is it any wonder that more and more people are depressed? And is not these very factors that are driving those with depression into the depths of of loneliness caused by our inherent need to be connected over the Internet?

I have not been one to have many people around me, socially and on a personal level, I have had times in my life when I have been lonely, very lonely, without connections and feelings of love. There have been other times in my life when I have had people around me but still felt no connection or love. I have social networks both on a personal and professional level I believe that I have a false sense of connection from these, and with this comes a perception at I am more connected and loved. The perception from my own social networks are just that a perception of connectedness. I am sure that if I was to communicate with these same friends on the telephone every day in conversation my feeling of connection and love would be greater, I would feel a greater sense of belonging, my friendships would be closer, and I shouldn’t feel lonely. Is this how life works? If this was to occur for the first time in my life would I feel happiness?


2 thoughts on “Connections and love – are they predictors of happiness?

  1. Great questions. I have learned that while it is easy to fall into the social media trap, it doesn’t replace face-to-face connection. I have learned a lot about myself, and one of the things is that I’m an introvert. A person who does not need a lot of friends, just a few good ones. A lot of people drain me of my energy. I’m okay with that. However, I make a concerted effort to get my butt off the computer and mingle with the friends I do have, whether by phone or meeting up with them. — when I’m not depressed.

  2. Cyber connections are very limited. Even though we may be communicating more often and with a wider range of people, we are still missing that close connection that can only be received when face to face.
    Living in a cyber world can never be as satisfying as the real world.

    We as humans were built for close physical companionship as well as friendship. Love is an action, a visible action. That’s something that cyber connections aren’t capable of delivering.

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